Have you ever pushed yourself past too far? Just kept going and going and going without sufficient sleep but too much caffeine? Eaten poorly because your appetite is whacky and everything tastes slightly off and cravings are making you irrational?
Yeah, me too. Too many times to comfortably recount.
Now I’m watching my daughter (adult) do the same thing and I am increasingly concerned about the example I provided for her as she was growing up. Yes, I was overly driven with workaholic tendencies. A people-pleasing, overachieving stresswad a lot of the time. Was this the best example for her to think she needs to emulate? NOT!
Looking back is always more clear – hindsight being 20/20 and all that!
So what do I say? Do I suggest she seriously live differently? Of course! But I hear the same excuses from her that I used to say all the time, too. Ouch
This is NOT Carpe Diem. This is thinking that “I” have to do it all now and too much is riding on what I’m doing – too much depends on me. This really isn’t true and it leads to less than the best.
To Carpe Diem is to keep balance, too. Body – mind – spirit balance. It’s delicate and must be intentional. This is what I hope to share and teach.
Intentionality. Purposefulness. With balance not burnout. We cannot deny ourselves and think we’re really serving others adequately. If we fry ourself, we’re no good to anyone anymore. Consider this, please. Really consider how you are keeping (or not?) balance in your life.
We cannot go on indefinitely denying our basic physical needs such as sleep, hydration, nutrition. Our bodies will eventually fail us and force us to stop and fix what we’re damaging (whether intentionally or unintentionally).
We cannot go on indefinitely denying there is a basic spiritual need within each of us. We are created beings with a built-in need for God. He made us, He teaches us, He enables us. Phew.
We cannot go on indefinitely without recharging our mental batteries. We also need positive mental stimuli and focus daily. Be careful what you read, hear or discuss. Very careful. Keep it productive rather than destructive. Keep it positive rather than negative.
Love yourself honestly then you can love others, too.
Carpe Diem beloveds.